Gay Guy Flipping Tables

This article explores the hidden sting of everyday comments and jokes that might seem harmless but can be deeply hurtful to the LGBTQ+ community.

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The Questions & Other Dumb Things

• When did you know?

• Who is the man in the relationship?

• When will you grow out of this phase?

• God did not make Adam and Steve

• Can I watch?

• How will will you make children?

• Who's on top?

• Doesn’t it hurt, you know s.x?

All these statements plus many more are common questions asked to gay men. Would you ever ask your straight friend those questions?

Why It Hurts:

• Everyday comments add up: Imagine constant, even small, negative messages about yourself. It takes a toll.

• They dismiss experiences: Comments that question someone's identity or reality can be very invalidating.

• They reinforce hurtful stereotypes: Casual jokes can normalize assumptions that can be harmful.

Moving Beyond the Script:

• Learn and listen: Take the time to understand the impact of your words. Ask questions and hear stories.

• Acknowledge and apologize: If you realize a comment hurt someone, own up to it and try to understand why.

• Be an ally, not just a friend: Amplify posi…